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Local lass
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What would you do ?me and my friend was talking and the topic turned to people having affairs.few questions for you.
if your partner had either a one night stand or a affair would you want to know?
if your partner found out that you had had the affair would you admit it?
ive always had a understanding from my partner that should either of us have a affair or one night stand that we had to tell each other.and we would work it out,however if we heard from someone else that it would be the end.
as for question two i think if you did have a affair but denyed it to your other half then your marrage is a lie.
my friend would not tell her other half if she had a affair therefore how could they have a proper relation ship. 
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kathy27
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I've always said if your happy in your relationship then you wouldnt be tempted.......
so with that im mind if you are tempted, then your not happy, if you cant talk to your partner about not being happy then you dont have much of a relationship to begin with.....
affairs have the excitement and fun that long term relationships sometimes lose abit due to day to day living.
any relationship has its ups and downs, that life..
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Local lass
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exactley kathy.but how would you feel if you found out your partner had cheated you had your suspicians asked him he said no then you find out that it was infact true .
wouldnt your relation ship be a total lie from the moment he cheated.?
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pimpdriver
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that's a bit like "pre nuptial agreements".
Setting yourself up for failure from day 1.
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kathy27
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IF my partner ever cheated on me, i just hope that the other women would be worth it, cause he would NEVER have me again.....i dont do second chances 
if there was a problem and he couldnt talk to me, then he may as well cheat cause we wouldnt have much of a relationhip if he cant talk to me!
Im very lucky with the patner ive got, he worships the ground i walk on, and i know no other woman could ever tempt him away, we have an honest relationship and talk about anything that is on our minds.
Ive had other women try to chat him up, but he doesnt like it and is not interested.
one night out i went off to the toilet and came back to him being chatted up, i found it funny and felt sorry for the poor girl....so i left him to it  it was funny watching him squrm.......i trust him completly
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Local lass
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you missed the point .what i was trying to get at .was if your partner had a affair and you suspected at the time and your partner denyed it and you belived him. things carried on as normal.
in truth your partner did had a ffair .wouldnt the marriage be a lie from the time he had had a affair.?
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kathy27
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The short answer is YES the relationship would be a lie and YES the relationship would be over.
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Chepfer
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Everyones different ....
When i got married .. i said these words in front of alot of people ...
"Through good times and bad"
"For better for worse"
Etc ...... Surely bad and worse times include the above. Though i agree with you in principle, theres alot more to it than yes or no answers.
I promised i'd stick with my wife whatever happend ......... and i still would. Things have to be worked out, talked about like adults and forgiven or at least let life go on ..........
Sorry this is waffled.
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